What empowerment means to me?

There are many definitions for empowerment, but I'd like to define this word from my point of view;

To me empowerment means:

Empower people do not look for money, instead they look for their joy and they look for finding ways to better serve people while they enjoy every moments of their job,

Empower people do not look for love and do not expect people to love them, instead they train themselves to be lovely person and to love people unconditionally,

Empower people do not look for people's approval, instead they try to be 100 percent responsible to achieve what they want, no matter some people criticize them or do not appreciate their value,

Empower people do not expect people to bring happiness for them, instead they try to find happiness and joy in their life and to be source of happiness in others' lives.

And finally empower people are powerful people who live in abundance. They are totally free and they do not expect anything from anybody. They can achieve everything they want by the power of their mind and by taking right actions. They enjoy every moments of their life and they bring joy to others.

SAHABAT SERU..REAL LEADERSHIP WORKSHOP, Hal Ehwal Pelajar,Universiti Malaya♥♥

Thumbs Up for SERU1 :)

Left to right: Puri, Fatimah, Azim, Angel, Maheran, Fatin, Hasrul

Left to right: Inia, Angel, Fatin, Maheran

Left to right: Hasrul, Maheran, Angel, Azim

With thanks to my dear Sanguine lovely friend "Maheran" for sending these photos :) 

Goal Setting Rules

I am surprised about the amount of stuff I learned about the "Goal Setting" in this program. I would like to share with you a quick/short review of "Goal Setting Rules":) Special thanks to my dear coach Abg Amirul.

-----------------------------------  1) Goal Setting Rules  --------------------------------

1. Questions that you have to ask yourself at initial step before setting any goal:

• Why this goal ?
• Is it in line with your values ?
• Is it SMART  (Specific- Measurable- Action oriented- Realistic- Time bound) ?

     2. State each goal as a positive statement.

     3. Focus on specific outcome that you are looking for.

     4. Identify obstacles and challenges.

     5. Find resources to help you achieve your goals.

P.S: My favorite notes : "Goals are there to inspire you not to beat you up!" & "Many people start. Successful people finish."

How knowing different types of personality can help us to communicate effectively?

When we are angry, sad, anxious or .... it's so easy to criticize and blame people blindly ... but is it the right way?!!!

Have you ever listened to your self talk when you are about to lose temper in relationships? Following is my previous self talk (before attending this program) when feeling there are conflicts between me and others: 

     
"This person is terrible! I will never deal with him/her again! He makes me crazy! OMG! How rude he/she is..."

Previously, I was in the state of judgement instead of being in the state of empathy. In other words, I had tendency to criticize people without trying to know them or seeing the situation from their point of view.

Now, I am blessed by knowing that we are different. I learned that there are 4 different types of personality namely Sanguine, Melancholy, Choleric and Phlegmatic and each personality type has its own strengths and weaknesses. For instance, I know that I am Melancholy perfectionist and it's easy for me to get depressed. I learnt that I expect too much from others because of my perfectionist attitude. So, I am trying  to be more self aware and not to fall into trap of perfectionism.

Attitude of Gratitude

I just came home after my third coaching session. Everything was great and I'm so happy and full of energy now. This session, I learned many things from my dear coach  Abg Amirul and peer coaching group. I am going to share all with you but now my focus is on "attitude of gratitude".

I learned this: "Be a great giver and great receiver!"

It's very short statement but it means a lot. It means when somebody does a favor for you , you as a receiver should show your sincere gratitude. How? Great receiver looks at giver's eyes and says "THANK YOU!"

It shows we understand he/she did a favor for us and we appreciate it.  

How many times you have been in this situation that you helped someone or even you complimented them but they refused or even they behaved as if you were wrong?! For example you said: "Hey! you look good today!" and the person answered : "who?! me?! I even can't go in front of mirror today! I'm so messy today!"

Or you have been so nice to someone, but his/her negative mind couldn't accept that you were sincere? How did you feel at that moments?

Although our coach  Abg Amirul  believes when we do good things for people we should not expect something in return and I'm totally agree with him , but do not forget that this is an attitude of great givers. Great givers just do good things for people without expecting anything in return but on the other hand great receivers appreciate giver's favors at least by saying this simple short but powerful statement which is "THANK YOU!"

I  learnt today whenever I'm playing a role of "giver" I have to play a role of great giver which means being nice and helpful without expecting anything from anyone.

On the other hand, when I am blessed by having kind people around me who help me and care about me, I as a receiver should play a role of great receiver by showing my sincere gratitude and saying a big "Thank You".

So, thank you to all people who helped me so far in all aspects of my life. Thank you my dear coach Abg Amirul! Thank you KaK Elin! Thank you  Sahabat Seru organizers! Thank you all for your time and attention to read my blog.

Love you all.

Demanding boss or understanding leader?

For sure I choose "understanding leader"!

100 years ago

Nowadays people mostly think or talk about working hard, doing business, making money,...
Why nobody thinks or talks about the value of family, people, relationship, love...
Following is an old photo of Iranian reunion party in 100 years ago! 

Messy Room Messy Mind!

Yesterday, one of my friends came to my place after one month. We just greeted each other for about 5 or 6  seconds and then she screamed and said a big WOWWWWWWWW....

I scared :) Then I asked her: "Are you alright? What happened?!"

Can you imagine what she answered? She said: "Heeeey! Your room is so clean and organized in compare to last month!"

OMG! She was right! Sometimes we change but we don't feel!

Thanks to all who have supported me in my personal development plan! :)

My personal development story

Hi everyone!

Today is Saturday and it's the day for uploading new posts :) I am so excited!

I just want to share with you how my life changed from the time I started to develop my personality till now. I started from January 2012 which I was terribly depressed and overwhelmed... I was stuck and I didn't have energy to do my works or even communicating with people no matter they were my friends or my family or whatever...I was always tired in bad mood...I can say my energy level was almost 0 !

My mental and emotional situation was getting worse day by day...Then I realized if I don't do anything now sooner or later I will lose everything in my life. I will lose my family, my friends... I will lose my supervisor, my degree and definitely I won't be able to find job here.... I was sure that I will lose everything and I won't be able to achieve anything ....I talked with some friends but no benefit...I don't know you have been in this situation or not!!! when you know what is right or what is wrong, when you know what you are supposed to do or what you are not supposed to do...you know but you don't have confidence or maybe you don't have energy to stand up and just do your works!

Anyway, time passed and I was always thinking how I can help myself...until one day when I was walking on campus I found a flyer which was about "Empowerment", "Relationship skills", "Leadership" ...at first I didn't have any idea about the meaning of these words but I was hoping maybe I can gain some solutions for increasing my confidence level ... I was always praying "God! can I believe myself again?!"

To make the story short I registered for the course and I WILL NEVER FORGET THE FIRST SESSION!

I was so excited! because all topics were the topics that I was so interested to learn and I couldn't believe that my wishes came true in this way!!!! By just walking around campus and find a flyer and register blindly without any clear idea about the course...that day I realized the power of mind. I think I could attract this course by my thought since I was desperately looking for some ways to help myself to stand up again! YES! I'm so blessed and happy to find this amazing course , to know my dear coach Abamirul and my dear peer coaches...

Now, my life changed... totally changed :) I am happy , energetic, positive and most importantly I LOVE PEOPLE.

Dear friends! it's very important to love people...without loving people we can't enjoy our life and we can't communicate effectively. We need to love people.

I found job! You know who introduced me to to the company? One of my friends!

I have very good relationships with my housemates, with my supervisor, with office staffs...with everyone! because I love them. It's very simple! "People don't care what you know until they know you care!" and it's very true!

My 2012 Year Planner

It feels good when you see 2012 in one glance! and it feels better when you understand you are the master of all days ahead!
Thanks my dear coach Amirul for sharing this idea!

Who Do You Think You Are?

I think I'm very capable and what I need is to believe in myself!